How to Appreciate Every Stage of Life
This is an issue that is near and dear to me because I personally hate seeing people who are ungrateful with what they currently have. Rather it's comparison, ungratefulness or impatience, people have a tendency to always complain about their current season of life. Once we move on into our next stage of life, we often find ourselves reminiscing on the previous and wishing that they would've enjoyed that time more than they had. So let's look at some common examples of frustrating circumstances and how you can be content and enjoy that stage of life.
I constantly see single people sacrifice so much dignity in order to get a significant other. I'm not going to lie, I was one of those people, but I quickly realized that desperation doesn't look good on me. The funniest part is, many of my friends in relationships miss some aspects of their singleness, so let's look at the positives:
You get to do what you want, when you want. You have the opportunity to do things on your own accord without having to consider someone else. So if you're anything like me and you work late or like to go to the gym on a certain schedule, you should appreciate this aspect. You never have to feel bad for getting home at crazy hours, going out with friends sporadically, or taking a random trip just because.
You have time to work on yourself. Do a deep self evaluation. What are goals you want to achieve? What are bad habits you want to get rid of? What are skills you want to learn? Take advantage of your time while single to really focus on the person you want to be. It's usually when you're geared and focused when love tends to touch down.
You get the opportunity to avoid settling. We all know those couples that aren't truly happy, but decide to stay together out of the unknown of the "single's world." Yeah that's pretty lame. I 100% rather be by myself and enjoy life to the fullest, than settle for someone I don't even like forreal. So while single, take the time to be picky! Date around and find out what you like and what you absolutely can't deal with. Don't rush to get into something just to say you did. Having options is a wonderful thing!
You have time to Hang with friends. Let's be real, it's hard to keep up with your friends when you're in a relationship. You don't want to neglect either party but somehow friends usually end up on the back burner when people get into relationships (which is another issue for another post but - p.s. people in relationships, do better with this!).
So while you're single enjoy your friends to the fullest! Take a random road trip, have a game night without having to worry about a significant other's annoying friends, fly across the country to spend a week with a friend you haven't seen in a while. At the end of the day, friendships usually outlast romantic relationships so make sure you fully enjoy them, especially during this life season.
No one likes being broke, no one likes paying debt, and no one likes having to say no because of financial restrictions. Even though all of these things suck, make the best out of your broke times!
Allow this time to teach you how to handle money. If God sees that you can handle the little things, he will continue to bless you with more because he trusts you can handle it (Matthew 13: 3-23).
Let this time teach you how to hustle. When we're broke is usually when we come up with our best ideas because we're trying to scrap for as much money as possible to stay afloat.
Learn to prioritize. When you only have but so much, you learn to pick and choose what's important for you. So if you want that new Gucci bag, just know you can't afford to go on that trip this summer and vice versa. Having less teaches you to realize what's really important to you.
Getting Laid Off
Now this is a touchy issue. Not only does being laid off hurt your pockets, but it also hurts your ego. The cliche saying "everything happens for a reason" is annoying to hear but very true in this situation. In order to stay optimistic during this time, remember the following:
Discover your purpose. During this time, really think about what your life's purpose is. You may have gotten pushed out of this job because you're being pushed into your purpose.
Find your career path. Use this time to meditate on what you what jobs you should really be going for, or if you're potentially supposed to work for yourself. You may find that you're supposed to be in a completely different industry or that you have a hidden talent.
Be humble. Also, don't be afraid to humble yourself and get a side job to pay the bills until you get back on your feet. At the end of the day money is money, so don't ego trip and think you're above hard work.
This is such a hot topic. Skinny people want to get a few curves, chubby people want to lose theirs and challenged people have eating disorders. So how do you stay happy with yourself when your body is not up to your standards?
Love yourself. Firstly, love yourself no matter what. Decide at this moment that no matter what size you are, you're gorgeous and an all around hottie.
Learn Discipline. Now, if you want to go from hottie to jaw dropping, use this time as an opportunity to learn discipline. Body toning is the a great time to learn this fundamental skill. So write out your goals, create a timeline, and do it no matter what!
Become Self Aware. Also, use this time to get to know what works and doesn't work for your body. This time is all about progress so enjoy yourself every step along the way.
At the end of it all, you must make a decision to enjoy your life through the good times and bad. Do the daily exercise of writing out 5 things you are grateful for on a daily basis. This will help you stay positive during the bad times and will grow your appreciation for life, no matter what stage you're in.